I have three phrases that I use to absorb a girl into my frame. These phrases have taken my game to another level in-field. Having some stock phrases that are time tested under your belt can add some spunk to your game.
One of the first things I like to dish out on a girl is the effective, “How Dare You?!??” This is great for when a girl tries to take a sip of your drink, touches you accidentally, or delivers a snide remark. Looking at her with an appalled look and saying, “How Dare You!” as if you were royalty, demonstrates value. I find that they usually don’t have a response to this. It makes them aware of their behavior and pulls them into your frame. It is a great way to bust their balls.
Another phrase I use that is excellent for establishing rapport is “OMG, me too! You’re starting to creep me out.” Finding commonalities with your target is pivotal when it comes to establishing comfort. I like to play a game in field where I tell a girl that we are going to say our favorite flick on the count of three. We say it at the same time to see if we hit a match. I do this with a couple of different scenarios, favorite TV show growing up, favorite comedy film, favorite musician, etc. it’s a fun game that makes finding common ground fun and interesting. Don’t fall into her reality when doing this. Be sure to know the answers to the questions you are going to ask her. Say the name of your favorite movie, and if hers is different, say “OMG, I love that movie too.” Then instantly give a reason why or a story that will provide a strong reason for the commonality. What’s even more powerful is if you can get your target to say “OMG, ME TOO!” You can be sure you are creating attraction.
My last pick would be “I don’t believe you!” This is a crafty tool when it comes to re-framing. If you are getting any type of resistance from your target this can help change the direction of the interaction. Say your target says, “I’m not going home with you.” You can simply look at her and say, “I don’t believe you!” If she is stubborn about not going home with you say, “Look, you don’t even believe you!” This derails her attempt at taking control of the frame, as you are refusing to fall into her frame. It displays your value with a hint of brilliance.
Try these out in field and watch your game soar – Jonny Cruz
Neil Strauss exposed the principles of becoming the best pick up artist and put them into his best selling book The Game.
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