The chance that a partner or a loved one might come to you for advice is a pretty good bet. Why not prepare yourself for that eventuality? Would the “wisdom” you impart be truly wise? Would it help or harm? Everybody has thoughts on many topics and many ways of doing many things. You do, too. Do you know where these preferences came from? Do you yourself believe in them enough to pass them along? Are they even healthy?
Before you offer any advice you better be asking yourself those tricky questions and more. You need to know exactly what you’re saying and why you’re saying it. How much of any counsel you offer is going to be tinged with your own self-interest? And suppose you weren’t actually asked for advice but more as a source of feed back or affirmation for a course already taken. How would you handle it? What kind of help would you be?
By offering advice or consent, you assume a powerful role in your loved one’s eyes and your words and actions had better be coming from a place of very thoughtful love and a genuine desire to help. Your ego doesn’t need to be tripping nor should your own goals have a prominent role. Advice impelled by those notions will produce nothing really positive for your partner.
Help yourself first. No one should give or offer advice unless they are truly confident in their beliefs and why they have them. Before you can help another person you must be in a place to take yourself out of the equation and offer unadulterated opinions. The person asking your advice may be emotional and hence more open to suggestion. It is your responsibility to help them in the best possible way.
A great way to do this is to align your mind and spirit through meditation. Through meditation you gain the ability to see things more clearly and from a place of love. You may understand that your opinions are not suited for a particular person at a particular time and choose not to offer your personal opinion, rather a more general point of view.
Negative thoughts or negative personal experiences should not be a part of your decision as to what advice you might offer, unless it is to steer the loved one so that they may avoid similar mistakes. If any of the deadly sins (greed, anger, etc.) impels any of the advice you might offer, it won’t be good. If you are at all unsure, don’t give it.
Even if you have managed to give the best advice available, it is up to your significant other to take it or leave it. But, if you have conjured the advice with love and respect, you will at least know that whatever you have said has caused no harm. You will not have set any negative energy loose in the world – you may have done quite the opposite.
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