There is a saying that states: “you can not miss something that you never had”. This must be the reason why it is not uncommon for most people to have an obsession with their ex’s. Most of us have difficulty to let go of the relationship, the person and the past.
It is most likely that you will suffer from some sort of degree of depression simply because it is found to be part of the grieving caused by the loss you suffer. Very few people realize how intense the pain is and the way they act, humiliating at the best of times during the breakup period, is all related to the trauma they are suffering.
It does not matter if you still know the person, just let it go. Its your past, get the person out of your mind and heart. Otherwise you are just drowning yourself in sorrow and grief.
Cry- just cry your heart out and get it out. Tears actually help you feel better by making your heart light. Do not suppress your tears, let the flow. It’s ok to sometimes let the emotions come out in forms of tears because it’s very relaxing and it is a very healthy process, so don’t be shy.
Look for ways to get over the sorrow like God and beliefs. This may make you traditional and superstitious, but its worth trying. Keep your heart open, do not close the doors and keep grieving inside. This way you are making it hard for yourself.
Focus on yourself and not the other person. Pity yourself and find happiness within you. Fill up your loneliness with your activities and work. You have it in you and can make it happen. Don’t just sit around and feel sorry for yourself, that’s the least healthy thing you could do to yourself.
When pain come back and knock on your door after a while again, accept and acknowledge it but do not foster it. Become consciously aware of the existing moment. Notice positive things around you. The more you do this, the more will you start to keep the past a distant memory.
Everybody loves to say forgiveness sets you free, up to that moment where you need to be the one that have to forgive. Then it becomes more easily said than done! However, what or who ever you might blame for the loss of your relationship, bitterness will prolong the negative feelings you have. Although you may not forgive the person/s in person at least do it in your heart.
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