One area that is always a breeding ground for contention between couples is the fact that each one tries very hard to prove a point to the other.
It is daft to sit around and just watch the house that is your marriage burn down to crisp simply because you are not the one who lit the fire. Do not stoop that low by persisting in hurling blames to your partner just to divert attention away from your own blemishes.
It is absolutely natural to do this but the true fact is that it can be quite damaging to one’s health and well being.
Rise to the occasion and handcuff your egos. Avoid the chest thumping, play the black sheep just this once, and watch it pay dividends
The most effective way to save a marriage is by swallowing one’s pride and being able to see own mistakes and owning up to them. You would be surprised how such things if ignored can work to ruin a relationship.
Sometimes, insisting on being on the offense is actually destructive to the relationship as the contest only clouds your perception of each other. It is as irritating as a bunch of kids going at each other to win a parents attention.
Remember that ego is not the priority here. Your staying in a relationship should be the key objective. Seek to consolidate your gains by letting it be a two-way situation. Air your opinions but do not be deaf to her. You will with time experience how your act of maturity led her to accept that she could have been the one to blame.
It is necessary to feed your ego but it is unwise to feed it with the wrong stuff. Besides, in times when it is your relationship under fire, your ego will only give you an untrue picture of the real weight of the situation. Master your ego and once again appreciate how letting the other partner be the right one works like magic.
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