If you have ended a relationship because your ex cheated on you, most often than not, a time will come when you will be tormented if you should still give that unfaithful ex of yours another chance in the game or not. It is not an easy decision, no matter how long it has been since you broke up, especially when you have thought that you have left the Gehenna that has shrouded you when you found out that you have been cheated on, thus now you return to that painful place. Take control of that merry-go-round of emotions and hesitations that you have before you make a decision to give your Ex a chance. Do that by asking your ex these questions.
Why do you want another chance and save our marriage? This is a big question. Don’t just settle for a simple, “let’s forget what happened and start again” line. Understand the reason why your ex wants to reconcile. Why have you been chosen over the paramour. Do you have to worry about the same infidelity in the future? How can your ex prove that this time around, it is for real? That your ex will stand to the promise of “’till death do us part?”
What is my assurance that you can stand a fight against temptation? This is a question that needs to be answered. It is time to put your ex in the spot of interrogation. Let your ex feel the stress and humiliation. No need to feel pity for him/her. Before jumping to this “second chance”, protect your heart first. Safeguard yourself from experiencing another pandemonium of rage, humiliation, and pain; avoid going through another series of misery and agony. How can your ex guarantee that there won’t be another set of lies, deception, and cheating? Why a change of heart? Why won’t your ex cheat anymore, does he/she has the strength to run and hide from an illicit attraction? It’s pretty much true and any person would want to hear the answers to it so don’t hesitate. Ask. You deserve an answer.
What invoked your ex to cheat? Is there something missing in your marriage? To better decide on whether or not your marriage is worth another try, you have to understand not only your ex’s capacity to withstand temptation but you have to know what caused the infidelity. Weaseling out of seduction is a great relief but you have to know and remove the real reason your ex cheated. Maybe it could be your spending habits, or you don’t give much attention or spend much time with your partner, or you just forgot to be sweet like you use to. By being aware of this problem, you can have a fifty percent chance of not having to deal with your ex’s infidelity all over again. And remember even if your ex can avoid temptation but the root of the problem is still there, it could still cause major problems and ignite arguments that can lead to an unhappy reunion.
Do you still love me? This is the paramount of all the questions, the foundation of your marriage. And to build a better bedrock, ask the same question to yourself as well. But if you know that you no longer have any feelings for each other, say, maybe you just want top keep the marriage to save yourselves from wagging tongues, then stop. This could cause more issues than what you already have. So ask yourselves what you still feel for each other. If you know that you love your ex still, and can feel deep in you that he/she loves you back, then don’t stop. But it is still important to hear the question answered by your ex. And look into your ex’s eyes and body language to support those sweet words.
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