Is there such a thing as being too nice? One would think not, but sadly, there are times when that may be the case.
It would natural to think that if you treat people nicely they will want to respond in kind. Unfortunately, that doesn’t always happen.
When you’re nice or kind to people they can sometimes see it as a sign that you are weak. Instead of an act of generosity, they can see your kindness as an opportunity to take advantage of you. They will think you can be pushed around.
Sometimes when you show someone an act of kindness they may see that as an opportunity and may ask you to do favors for them. They may continue their requests or amp them up if you let them. If you reaching your breaking point with all the requests and eventually do say no, you may feel guilty because it goes against your kind nature. But part of you knows that it is necessary.
When you are nice, some damaged people can feel like they have license to take your time and possessions as they please. They think you’ll never stand up for yourself, so they have no reason not to and you will never defend yourself in a fight.
It may be your nature to do nice things for people and be kind to everyone. What may be a surprise is that not everyone acts the same way. Some people are unused to it and it makes them feel suspicious or defensive. They may think your kindness makes you a good target.
You may want to protect yourself. Be nice to others but hold back to a degree. Let others demonstrate that they are worthy of your kindness before you go all out. If they prove unworthy, you will be able to disengage yourself without too much difficulty.
Don’t think you always have to be nice. Recognize that in some situations it isn’t necessary or won’t be appreciated. It can even cost you in the long run, so think about who you want to extend your kindness to.
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