Do you suffer from approach anxiety at the sight of an attractive woman? Do you have a near anxiety attack at the prospect of approaching her and starting a conversation?
Perhaps when you’re with friends, conversation is easy and automatic. But when dealing with an attractive woman, making conversation is hopeless. When these circumstances occur, you either avoid her or make clumsy attempts that fail.
If this describes you, don’t be too hard on yourself. The majority of men behave similarly at the sight of an attractive woman. The degree of this reaction depends on the individual.
Those who seem to be natural ladies men have been doing this for years. Always keep in mind that meeting women can be learned by anyone. Some pointers to get you started:
1.) You need to appear self assured and relaxed. An easy smile is mandatory as well as behaving in a manner that seems natural. You should have good posture which means that you must keep your back erect when walking and standing.
Avoid taking hurried small steps while walking. Make the effort to walk like you own the space around you. When you speak, it must be done loud and clear so that she has no difficulty hearing you.
In order to appear relaxed on the outside, you should be calm on the inside. If your mind is racing in high gear, you will seem nervous. You will find yourself speaking too quickly or cutting her off when she is speaking.
You may also say inappropriate things that are normally out of character for you. When nervous, we sometimes say things that we come to regret later on.
2.) Do not use any cliches that you see in the movies or use pick up lines. This will turn you into a joke and it will be hard for her to take you seriously. Any unoriginal compliments about her appearance should be avoided.
To break the ice, try making an observation about something in your surroundings. Perhaps there is something on her person that may clue you in on one of her interests.
Ask her about this and be sure to listen to what she has to say. Her answer should be self revealing which provides you a chance to question her further. When she touches on points that you can talk about, you can now add to the conversation.
Remember that the exact content of what you say is secondary to how you say it. It is important for you to always project friendliness as well as confidence.
3.) The above suggestions may appear to be too much for you to handle. However, meeting and attracting women is a social skill and it won’t be mastered in a day. It should come as no surprise that you’ll do this in small baby steps.
Make a habit of practicing this skill at every opportunity. You might be waiting in line or riding an elevator. If you’re in a situation where both of you are waiting, get a conversation going with the woman next to you.
Don’t think and deliberate about whether or not to do it, just talk. If you do this for a few weeks you’ll be able to meet women in a way that is effortless and natural.
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