Breakups are hard enough…but when you find out your ex is with someone else, it makes matters feel even worse. But does rebound dating mean they don’t love you anymore?
Not at all…it could actually be really good news! See, people do the relationship rebound thing when they’re trying to get over someone else that they actually care about. It takes their mind off of the situation and distracts them, and makes them feel better (at least temporarily).
More than likely, your ex is dating someone else in order to deal with the pain of losing you. So that also means the door is still open for the two of you to get back together.
At this point, why you guys broke up doesn’t matter. Who was at fault, who broke it off with who…not important. What is important is that there’s still feelings between the two of you that can be rekindled.
Because true love doesn’t ever really go away…especially not just because someone else comes on the scene.
The rebound boyfriend or girlfriend is usually nothing at all like you. Why? Because they’re not trying to replace you, they’re trying to forget the things that remind them of you. So for example, if you were a real straight-arrow, they’re probably dating someone more reckless and wild. If you are a social butterfly, their new mate probably prefers quiet evenings at home.
That may seem awful…after all, that means your ex is comparing you to the rebound, right? Exactly. And that also means your ex is thinking about you an awful lot, even though they are trying not to. And, by seeing who they are dating now, you get an inside peek at what your ex is actually looking for.
Whatever this new person has, it’s something that your ex felt was lacking in your relationship. Use this information to take a good hard look at yourself…maybe you could loosen up a little, or expand your interests?
Don’t interfere…just let the rebound relationship run its course. Eventually, as the flaws in this person emerge, the interest will wane and you’ll start to look pretty good.
Your ex needs to come to the realization that they miss all the good things the two of you had together, and this won’t happen if you tell them…they have to come to this on their own. They might call you out of the blue…be friendly and receptive. If they want to talk, accept and don’t bring the rebound into the conversation.
Keep the following ‘golden rules’ in mind while your ex is dating someone else:
1. Never try to convince your ex that you are the love of their life. Let them discover this on their own.
2. If you have something you need to apologize for, then do it…once. And then let it go. Don’t beg for forgiveness.
3. You are who you are…so don’t declare you’ll make radical changes to your personality. Self-improvement is good, but stay true to yourself.
4. Don’t play the blame game. It doesn’t matter who was at fault. Let whatever happened settle, and be ready to forgive (and be forgiven) without needing to be right.
5. Never, ever beg them to take you back.
When you see your ex with someone else after you split up, don’t worry. They’re on the rebound, and it won’t last for long. You can still make up with them and fix your relationship. Because really…they still love you. For more breakup tips and advice, visit http://SecondChanceAtLove.info
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