Every man out there should learn how to approach women, because if he doesn’t, he is missing out on the vital first step for finding the girl of his dreams and forming a relationship with her…
The way you approach a girl can make or break the rest of your pickup. Here are some tips for approaching women that will help ensure your success!
Remember a situation where you were going to approach a girl, and before you could even get a single word out, she freaked out and simply rejected you?
Getting rejected right off the bat can be painful, but this is why you need to know the secrets to approaching women the right way! Once you’ve “blown it” with a girl, it is extremely hard to recover.
It is vitally important to make sure when approaching women, that you do so in a NON-TREATENING way and that you don’t telegraph your interest in the woman you’re approaching too early.
This is known as “coming in under the radar.”
You have to understand that most attractive women get hit on CONSTANTLY, so they’ve trained themselves to simply reject guys at the first sign they’re out to pick them up.
Most men don’t realize how annoying it can be for women to constantly be approached by guys who run the gamut from big time loser to big time creep. Because of this, women just don’t want to deal with yet “another pick-up attempt.”
Approaching women can be both easy AND fun when you know how to do it RIGHT.
I guess the big question is – what’s the right way to approach a woman?
First – YOU MUST ACT FAST.
Waiting too long before you approach a woman will give you a chance to talk yourself out of meeting her. You need to overcome your fear and approach quickly when the opportunity presents itself.
Secondly, know what you’re going to start the conversation with BEFORE you approach the girl. This will make meeting women much easier because you don’t have to spend time thinking of what to say before you feel comfortable walking up to meet her.
So having a good pick-up line in your hip pocket to use in these situations is probably a good idea.
But I’m not talking about the “Hey, nice shoes, what to have sex?” type line. The point is to be NON-THREATENING, remember?
The best lines usually engage the girl in an innocent conversation. You can do so by asking her opinion on something and then following that up with more questions.
When approaching a woman, it’s important that you approach her from an ANGLE. Most guys charge towards the girl they want to meet like they’re marching to war! Coming in at an angle is much less confrontational and will put the girl at ease on a subconscious level.
The simple fact is – great pick-ups can only occur when the girl you are talking to feels comfortable with you! That’s why you need to feel comfortable talking to the girl.
It’s natural to feel uncomfortable meeting attractive women, but remember – practice makes perfect! If you take the time to go out and practice meeting women, over time it will become easier and you’ll be more comfortable with doing it.
Simply reading about meeting women or studying techniques is not going to help you get good at approaching women. If you want real success, you actually have to go out in the real world and meet lots of women so you can build your experience level. And the cool thing is – the more you do it, the easier it gets!
Don’t be afraid of getting rejected when you do this. Look at it as a game and distance yourself from the outcome. You’re not trying to get a date or get her into bed, your only goal is to talk to her and strike up a conversation. If you do that, you win!
That’s all!
See how many girls you can talk to in one night, and keep trying to beat your score.
The last thing you want to remember is always use a “time constraint” when approaching a woman. This is very easy to do – just tell her right off the bat that you’re not going to be long because you have to get back to what you were doing.
Effective use of time constraints will better engage the woman you’re talking to, because she won’t feel that she’s committing to a time-consuming endeavor. Instead, you’re only a momentary “distraction.” This helps eliminate any reason to reject you right off the bat.
Don’t worry about putting a time limit on yourself. Once the conversation picks up, the girl will forget about your time constraint and you can talk to her as long as you want. Remember, the goal here is just to get the conversation started, and a good time constraint will help you do that!
The dating game is a numbers game. The more women you’re able to meet, the greater your chances at finding a great girlfriend, and possibly even a future wife.
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