You realize that you are in a mess. Your relationship has gone to pot and you think you know the reason. Poor communication. You and your partner haven’t been talking and sharing with each other like you used to. No matter what you think the problem may be, it usually boils down to the main issue that one or both of you refuse to discuss whatever is causing the problem.
Every couple has their rough spots in the first few years, but if you don’t talk about them and deal with them, they will only get worse. If you don’t learn communication in the early years, don’t expect things to get better. They will only get worse without communication.
Perhaps you are debating the best way to solve things. Maybe you are thinking of going to a workshop, therapist, counselor, or even doing a relationship question and answer quiz together. It doesn’t matter what you do as long as you are both being honest and sharing your feelings with each other.
“Well, I’ve tried to talk to him/her, but we just end up fighting and screaming at each other and we accomplish nothing.” That is the purpose of the many measures listed above. The goal of a counselor or other person is to keep things from melting down to a screaming match.
You go to the counselor and they don’t say much, just sit and listen to you talk. They have done more for you than you may realize. They have provided an environment that is conducive to communication.
It is likely that the counselor will have words of wisdom and advice for you both. This is very useful in speeding up the healing process that needs to happen. You can be very thankful for the therapist you have if they are able to help you both start communicating. This may very well have just saved your marriage. There is still hope if you are still having disagreements. Don’t stop communicating. This is your only hope.
The difficulties you are having may stem from a number of problems. Arguments about money, sex, infidelity, the list could go on for pages and pages. The key to resolving these conflicts is to talk them through.
If there is no communication, you can mark it down, the relationship is going to fail. If there is communication, the relationship has more hope of surviving than ever before.
Besides importance of communication, the writer also regularly pens articles on 90 round tablecloths and vinyl floor tiles.
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